Foreplay is probably the most important part of the entire love making experience. Foreplay is the actions that come before intercourse. Men or women, it doesn’t matter, foreplay is used for arousal, making the experience better and to add variety into your sex life. This article will be broken into two parts. One will be dedicated to the men and the second to the women.
6. Talk To Her
Women need you to have open and caring conversations with them. They need to hear the words out of your mouth. Don’t make the mistake of over embelishing your conversation. You just want to tell them that you love them or missed them and this will be the right direction into bringing her over the edge.
7. Hear What She Is Saying
Women don’t just want you to hear them but rather they need you to listen to them. They also need to hear you. They want to listen to you. They don’t want short answers to their problems but rather some one who will sit down with them and have an intelligent conversation. This might not seem very sexual but to women this makes for very intimate moments.
8. She Loves To Be Touched
Women love it when you touch them in non sexual ways. To them it shows closeness and security. You want to hold their hands or give them a hug. If they know everything doesn’t have to lead to bedroom activity then when it does that will be so much better. When you’re watching television and you play with her hair it makes her feel like you will be there forever.
9. She Loves To Kiss
Women love kissing. To them there is no more of a turn on then nice romantic kissing. You don’t want to get to crazy at first with the tongue action and what not. She will dictate what she wants and how hard she wants to be kissed. Slowly you can add more passion. The best thing to do when it comes to this is to follow her lead and she will show you how she wants to be kissed.
10. The Next Step
Of course we want the kissing to lead to the next stage but be careful not to get to forceful. There is going to be time between the kissing and the next stage but that’s okay. The more that you show her the love and caress the more turned on she will be. Women get very excited as well but they just show it in different ways.
This is a simple list of tips that can possibly help you and your spouse in the bedroom. This by no means is meant to be tacky or dirty. Every day millions and millions of couples make love without foreplay. Don’t be scared to add foreplay to your bedroom experience and see what it does for the entire love making experience.
Thanks Dale
Dale is an expert author with EzineArticles with more than 60 articles published. http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Dale_Mazurek You can also check out two of his up and coming interactive blogs at http://fishingtutor.blogspot.com/ and http://relationshiptidbits.blogspot.com/
Love making and foreplay if done right is probably the most satisfying experience in the world. In this article all I strive to do is supply the readers with a few tips into helping this experience.
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Saturday, March 31, 2007
Friday, March 30, 2007
5 Needs Of A Relationship
Does anybody know what they want out of a relationship? Do you know what you’re looking for in a partner and what needs need to be fulfilled? Most of us get scared and mixed up when we start thinking about what we are looking for when trying to pick our significant other. But once you think about it for a while you should come up with some good ideas. I will go over what I think to be the 5 most important needs.
1. Physical Partner
You need a partner to help you with your physical needs. Man or woman it doesn’t matter. We all have physical needs so when thinking about that person you have to figure out if they can take care of your physical needs and you take care of theirs.
2. Partners Have To Be Friends
Through out you life your going to have lots of highs and lots of lows. You want to have someone that you know you can count on during these times. Someone that will listen when times are tough and someone to help celebrate when things go well.
3. Is Everything There
Your partner has to make you feel 100% fulfilled. Fulfillment is hard to explain but when the time comes you will feel that the partner you are with will be the one that can offer it to you.
4. I Want You As Mine
While a partner isn’t an object that you own you kind of want it to feel that way. If you need to cry or vent you have to know that your partner is there for you. They will support you in life know matter what. And you have to be able to support them. Both of you want to have similar romantic interests like taking long walks, going for ice cream or sitting by the fire.
5. Love Is Most Important
If there isn’t love then forget about anything else. People need love. I don’t care if its men or women. They both need to be pampered. They need to be treated gently. You should be able to voice your love for your partner. Love isn’t just a give but more importantly it is a need.
Okay now you know what you want out of your relationship and I am willing to bet that your partner wants similar things. The key now is to talk to your partner. The two of you need to talk about each others needs and see how things go from there. Just make sure you are honest with each other and things should work out.
In order for your relationship to work you have to know what you need out of it. I have listed what I think to be the 5 most important needs in a relationship.
Dale has been married for twenty very successful years and feels he knows what’s important in a relation ship. You can check out his interactive relationship blog at http://relationshiptidbits.blogspot.com/ You can check out two other very popular blogs oh his. http://stcajo-readshortstories.blogspot.com/ and http://fishingtutor.blogspot.com/
1. Physical Partner
You need a partner to help you with your physical needs. Man or woman it doesn’t matter. We all have physical needs so when thinking about that person you have to figure out if they can take care of your physical needs and you take care of theirs.
2. Partners Have To Be Friends
Through out you life your going to have lots of highs and lots of lows. You want to have someone that you know you can count on during these times. Someone that will listen when times are tough and someone to help celebrate when things go well.
3. Is Everything There
Your partner has to make you feel 100% fulfilled. Fulfillment is hard to explain but when the time comes you will feel that the partner you are with will be the one that can offer it to you.
4. I Want You As Mine
While a partner isn’t an object that you own you kind of want it to feel that way. If you need to cry or vent you have to know that your partner is there for you. They will support you in life know matter what. And you have to be able to support them. Both of you want to have similar romantic interests like taking long walks, going for ice cream or sitting by the fire.
5. Love Is Most Important
If there isn’t love then forget about anything else. People need love. I don’t care if its men or women. They both need to be pampered. They need to be treated gently. You should be able to voice your love for your partner. Love isn’t just a give but more importantly it is a need.
Okay now you know what you want out of your relationship and I am willing to bet that your partner wants similar things. The key now is to talk to your partner. The two of you need to talk about each others needs and see how things go from there. Just make sure you are honest with each other and things should work out.
In order for your relationship to work you have to know what you need out of it. I have listed what I think to be the 5 most important needs in a relationship.
Dale has been married for twenty very successful years and feels he knows what’s important in a relation ship. You can check out his interactive relationship blog at http://relationshiptidbits.blogspot.com/ You can check out two other very popular blogs oh his. http://stcajo-readshortstories.blogspot.com/ and http://fishingtutor.blogspot.com/
Saturday, March 24, 2007
How To Make 20 Years Of Marriage
In the day of internet at any given time you can find hundreds and hundreds of ads to help your marriage succeed. There are books, tapes, DVDs, counsellors and lessons of every different kind. I decided to write a short article on what I think has helped my marriage to succeed for the last twenty years. Don’t get me wrong. I believe there is value in the information we find but I thought I would share what made my relationship so successful. These are in no means necessarily in any order.
1. Communication
Communication is one of the most important parts in maintaining a successful relationship. It is important to always keep the lines open. You or your partner might not always like what they are seeing but it’s important to convey that to one another. Make sure the communication goes both ways though. It can’t always be problems that you’re communicating about. You have to make sure you communicate about the good things as well.
2. Honesty
Lying is a great way to head a marriage into a disaster. No matter how big or small a lie is a lie. The marriage has to be open enough that you can convey anything to your partner. If you feel a need to lie then there is a weakness in your marriage. Once you start lying and get away with it then the lies will continue eventually leading to disaster and very possibly a break up.
3. Trust
If you don’t trust your partner then you have to figure out why and see if the issue can be resolved. If it can’t be then the time has come for both of you to walk away. It is so important to have trust. You or your partner has to have time away from each other. Those are the times when trust is the most evident. If you can’t let your partner go out for a night with his or her buddies without calling them on the cell phone all night or continuously wondering what they are doing then you better get this resolved. It might work for a while but eventually things will come to an ugly screeching halt.
4. I Love You
This is a phrase I must have used millions of times in my twenty years of marriage. It is so important to tell your partner that you love them. After twenty years they know but still need to hear it. I never hang up the phone without saying it. I never go to bed without saying it. You can’t be embarrassed to say those three words. Hell I have even yelt them out in the mall before more than once.
5. Show Affection
In order for a marriage to last that long you have to keep the affection strong. You have to maintain a healthy sex life. If things go wrong there it is important to figure out why and deal with it. You have to be able to give your spouse hugs and kisses. And you have to be able to show your affection in public. I don’t mean that you should act like a bunch of teenagers but on a walk you should still hold hands and be able to give each other a kiss.
Twenty years of marriage at times feels like a roller coaster. There will be good and bad times. How you handle these times is whist will direct your marriage. What’s important is that you never give up. It’s too easy now a day to just walk away but I take a lot more pride in never giving up and always fighting for what I believe in.
Dale has been happily married for twenty years. He has started a new interactive relationship blog that can be checked out at http://relationshiptidbits.blogspot.com/ two other blogs that may be of some interest are http://fishingtutor.blogspot.com/ and his second passion after his wife is writing. http://stcajo-readshortstories.blogspot.com
1. Communication
Communication is one of the most important parts in maintaining a successful relationship. It is important to always keep the lines open. You or your partner might not always like what they are seeing but it’s important to convey that to one another. Make sure the communication goes both ways though. It can’t always be problems that you’re communicating about. You have to make sure you communicate about the good things as well.
2. Honesty
Lying is a great way to head a marriage into a disaster. No matter how big or small a lie is a lie. The marriage has to be open enough that you can convey anything to your partner. If you feel a need to lie then there is a weakness in your marriage. Once you start lying and get away with it then the lies will continue eventually leading to disaster and very possibly a break up.
3. Trust
If you don’t trust your partner then you have to figure out why and see if the issue can be resolved. If it can’t be then the time has come for both of you to walk away. It is so important to have trust. You or your partner has to have time away from each other. Those are the times when trust is the most evident. If you can’t let your partner go out for a night with his or her buddies without calling them on the cell phone all night or continuously wondering what they are doing then you better get this resolved. It might work for a while but eventually things will come to an ugly screeching halt.
4. I Love You
This is a phrase I must have used millions of times in my twenty years of marriage. It is so important to tell your partner that you love them. After twenty years they know but still need to hear it. I never hang up the phone without saying it. I never go to bed without saying it. You can’t be embarrassed to say those three words. Hell I have even yelt them out in the mall before more than once.
5. Show Affection
In order for a marriage to last that long you have to keep the affection strong. You have to maintain a healthy sex life. If things go wrong there it is important to figure out why and deal with it. You have to be able to give your spouse hugs and kisses. And you have to be able to show your affection in public. I don’t mean that you should act like a bunch of teenagers but on a walk you should still hold hands and be able to give each other a kiss.
Twenty years of marriage at times feels like a roller coaster. There will be good and bad times. How you handle these times is whist will direct your marriage. What’s important is that you never give up. It’s too easy now a day to just walk away but I take a lot more pride in never giving up and always fighting for what I believe in.
Dale has been happily married for twenty years. He has started a new interactive relationship blog that can be checked out at http://relationshiptidbits.blogspot.com/ two other blogs that may be of some interest are http://fishingtutor.blogspot.com/ and his second passion after his wife is writing. http://stcajo-readshortstories.blogspot.com
Thursday, March 22, 2007
How To Make Your Relationship Succeed (Part 3)
Hello everyone. By no means do I profess to be an expert in relationships but the one thing I do have is a very successful marriage of twenty years. Through those years my wife and I have had to work through several trials and tribulations. We could have very easily given up but the both of us took our vowels very seriously. That hard work has brought us to a point in our relationship where we know everything will be just fine. I will share with you some of the small things that have helped us to make our marriage last. This is part three of a small three part series.
17. Remember sometimes you have to take time for yourself. You would be surprised what 45 minutes would do for your temperament. The key to this is understanding your partner when they need this time.
18. Everyone is going to argue. That’s a given. However you have to learn to argue properly. Your trying to resolve issues not hurt the other person. So if you don’t want to hear it then don’t say it.
19. You want to reinforce your love so one good way to do this is give lots of hugs, smiles and kisses. At least four to one. For every negative aspect give four positive ones.
20. You guys have to learn to work together. Sometimes this means you don’t get everything you want but that’s okay. You have to learn to negotiate.
21. Usually what you married is what you get. Time to face facts. You’re not going to make your partner change. So as long as their characteristics are not harmful to the marriage then learn to live with them.
22. Sometimes people will make mistakes. After all we are only human. You have to be able to forgive your partner. If it’s so bad that you can’t forgive them then maybe it’s best for both of you if you guys go your separate ways.
23. Marriage should be forever but that doesn’t mean things will stay the same forever. You guys have to keep an open relationship so that there are no surprises when one of you has a different opinion on something you did five years ago.
24. Sometimes you have no choice. There just is no making things better. Maybe there are drugs or violence involved. There comes a time when you might just have to say that enough is enough.
25. Lastly, we don’t have counsellors for nothing. They have saved many a marriage. Don’t look at going to a counsellor as a failure but rather as an admission that you want the marriage to work but you need some help.
These are very simple tasks to put into place and follow. I cannot guarantee these will make your relationship perfect but if the relationship was meant to be then these will just show you that much sooner.
Dale Mazurek
This is part three in a 3 part miniseries on how to make your relationship succeed. All the answers are not here but if you follow these tips it can make your relationship much healthier.
Dale is presently working on getting his first novel published. He has been married for twenty years and is a self taught expert fisherman for the last 35 years. You can find some of his incredible stories at his blogs. http://relationshiptidbits.blogspot.com/ http://fishingtutor.blogspot.com/ http://stcajo-readshortstories.blogspot.com/
17. Remember sometimes you have to take time for yourself. You would be surprised what 45 minutes would do for your temperament. The key to this is understanding your partner when they need this time.
18. Everyone is going to argue. That’s a given. However you have to learn to argue properly. Your trying to resolve issues not hurt the other person. So if you don’t want to hear it then don’t say it.
19. You want to reinforce your love so one good way to do this is give lots of hugs, smiles and kisses. At least four to one. For every negative aspect give four positive ones.
20. You guys have to learn to work together. Sometimes this means you don’t get everything you want but that’s okay. You have to learn to negotiate.
21. Usually what you married is what you get. Time to face facts. You’re not going to make your partner change. So as long as their characteristics are not harmful to the marriage then learn to live with them.
22. Sometimes people will make mistakes. After all we are only human. You have to be able to forgive your partner. If it’s so bad that you can’t forgive them then maybe it’s best for both of you if you guys go your separate ways.
23. Marriage should be forever but that doesn’t mean things will stay the same forever. You guys have to keep an open relationship so that there are no surprises when one of you has a different opinion on something you did five years ago.
24. Sometimes you have no choice. There just is no making things better. Maybe there are drugs or violence involved. There comes a time when you might just have to say that enough is enough.
25. Lastly, we don’t have counsellors for nothing. They have saved many a marriage. Don’t look at going to a counsellor as a failure but rather as an admission that you want the marriage to work but you need some help.
These are very simple tasks to put into place and follow. I cannot guarantee these will make your relationship perfect but if the relationship was meant to be then these will just show you that much sooner.
Dale Mazurek
This is part three in a 3 part miniseries on how to make your relationship succeed. All the answers are not here but if you follow these tips it can make your relationship much healthier.
Dale is presently working on getting his first novel published. He has been married for twenty years and is a self taught expert fisherman for the last 35 years. You can find some of his incredible stories at his blogs. http://relationshiptidbits.blogspot.com/ http://fishingtutor.blogspot.com/ http://stcajo-readshortstories.blogspot.com/
Tuesday, March 20, 2007
How To Make Your Relationship Succeed (Part 2)
Hello everyone. By no means do I profess to be an expert in relationships but the one thing I do have is a very successful marriage of twenty years. Through those years my wife and I have had to work through several trials and tribulations. We could have very easily given up but the both of us took our vowels very seriously. That hard work has brought us to a point in our relationship where we know everything will be just fine. I will share with you some of the small things that have helped us to make our marriage last. This is part two of a small three part series.
9. It is so important not to keep things bottled up inside you. This will just build resentment and lead to the biggest fight imaginable. You need to express your problem and then ask for help with the answer.
10. If you think punishing your partner for something stupid they may have done your just asking for trouble. It will make them fight back even harder. Your best off to ignore the things you don’t like and praise them for the things that make you happy.
11. Here is the biggest reason people fight. MONEY Yes that’s right. Finances are the number one reason for the biggest fights around. Both of you have to learn to be open about money. When you work on the budget it has to be both of you involved equally.
12. House work isn’t just for women. The work around the house needs to be divided up evenly. This means children and yes hubby has to have an even share as well.
13. Something else that needs to be spit up and that is child care. Hubby has to be involved in changing diapers and feedings as well so that mom can take a break.
14. Don’t let your sex life disappear. There are going to be ups and downs in your sex life but as soon as either one of you see it going down make sure you start working to bring it back up. Don’t let sex turn into an argument.
15. I am not advocating having an affair but if one does happen you should still try and work things out. Figure out why it happened and see if it can be corrected. A mistake doesn’t have to be the end of a lifelong commitment.
16. Remember if you are bored with your spouse then you are probably angry about something so you should be asking yourself what you are angry about.
These are very simple tasks to put into place and follow. I cannot guarantee these will make your relationship perfect but if the relationship was meant to be then these will just show you that much sooner.
Dale Mazurek
This is part two in a 3 part miniseries on how to make your relationship succeed. All the answers are not here but if you follow these tips it can make your relationship much healthier.
Dale is presently working on getting his first novel published. He has been married for twenty years and is a self taught expert fisherman for the last 35 years. You can find some of his incredible stories at his blogs. http://relationshiptidbits.blogspot.com/ http://fishingtutor.blogspot.com/ http://stcajo-readshortstories.blogspot.com/
9. It is so important not to keep things bottled up inside you. This will just build resentment and lead to the biggest fight imaginable. You need to express your problem and then ask for help with the answer.
10. If you think punishing your partner for something stupid they may have done your just asking for trouble. It will make them fight back even harder. Your best off to ignore the things you don’t like and praise them for the things that make you happy.
11. Here is the biggest reason people fight. MONEY Yes that’s right. Finances are the number one reason for the biggest fights around. Both of you have to learn to be open about money. When you work on the budget it has to be both of you involved equally.
12. House work isn’t just for women. The work around the house needs to be divided up evenly. This means children and yes hubby has to have an even share as well.
13. Something else that needs to be spit up and that is child care. Hubby has to be involved in changing diapers and feedings as well so that mom can take a break.
14. Don’t let your sex life disappear. There are going to be ups and downs in your sex life but as soon as either one of you see it going down make sure you start working to bring it back up. Don’t let sex turn into an argument.
15. I am not advocating having an affair but if one does happen you should still try and work things out. Figure out why it happened and see if it can be corrected. A mistake doesn’t have to be the end of a lifelong commitment.
16. Remember if you are bored with your spouse then you are probably angry about something so you should be asking yourself what you are angry about.
These are very simple tasks to put into place and follow. I cannot guarantee these will make your relationship perfect but if the relationship was meant to be then these will just show you that much sooner.
Dale Mazurek
This is part two in a 3 part miniseries on how to make your relationship succeed. All the answers are not here but if you follow these tips it can make your relationship much healthier.
Dale is presently working on getting his first novel published. He has been married for twenty years and is a self taught expert fisherman for the last 35 years. You can find some of his incredible stories at his blogs. http://relationshiptidbits.blogspot.com/ http://fishingtutor.blogspot.com/ http://stcajo-readshortstories.blogspot.com/
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