10 Crucial and Surprising Steps to Build Trust in a Relationship

1. Be predictable.

When do seeds of suspicion emerge? When one begins to think, What's up? Why is he doing that? He's never done that before. That is so unlike him. He loses 30 pounds, buys a new wardrobe and comes home late from work. He changes his patterns. His behavior becomes unpredictable. You get the picture? Any movement away from predictable behavior can become suspect and trust can deteriorate.

Focus on acting predictably if you need to build trust. Be consistent in what you do.

This doesn't mean you must be boring. If there is a twinkle in your eye and a dose of spontaneity every so often, for goodness sakes be spontaneous and fun loving. But, be spontaneous consistently! Be true to who you have always been and be that consistently, whoever you tend to be!



2. Inform your significant other when you become "unpredictable."

No one goes through life the same person. We all make shifts and changes. Frankly sometimes we may be fairly clueless about what is happening and where we are going. Those times may be very intense and we do some silly things or make some downright dumb decisions. Life can get very squirrelly and unpredictable. (I have a favorite phrase: Gold is refined through intense heat.) Growth in an individual, marriage or family often is accompanied by a little chaos.

Welcome these shifts, for there is a part of you searching for something better/different/richer/deeper, but for heaven's sake, inform your partner of what you are experiencing. Say, "I really don't know what is going on in me right now, but I'm moving in a different direction. Be a little patient with me while I figure this out. I might do some silly things, but my intent is not to harm you or scare you. Accept some of my wondering and wandering and please be there for me? I may need to run some of this by you every so often!"



3. Make sure your words match the message.

Mean what you say and say what you mean. When your partner hears one thing in your words but your tone of voice, body language and facial expressions are really saying something else, you open the relationship to some crazy making days. Which message is she to believe? This can waste a tremendous amount of energy and she learns not to trust part of what you are saying.

Here's a very simple but common example. You are getting ready to go to a formal dinner. Your wife comes to you and says, "How do I look?" (And she's wearing a dress you don't particularly like and her hair is pulled back in a way that turns you off.)

Not to spoil the evening you enthusiastically say, "You look great." You don't really mean it and a part of her knows you really don't mean it. But, you leave it at that.

This might not seem like a big deal - we all have done something similar - but if trust is shaky to begin with, it is even shakier now.

Here's how to match the words with the nonverbal: "I think you are a beautiful person. I want you to know that. I love you dearly and it will be wonderful to have you by my side tonight. Others will see your beauty. (As you say this, you look into her eyes as you put your hands around her waist.)

She's not concerned so much with how she looks but is expressing a need for affirmation. She's not talking about her dress or hair, but about wanting to know the evening is going to go just fine. You respond to the real message.

You can take this one step further, if you like. At some point you might bring up her need for affirmation and talk about that. Ask her is there is anything you can say or do so that need is met.

Trust is awareness of the intent beneath the obvious message and responding to that!



4. Believe the other person is competent.

I hear this phrase very often: "But, I don't want to hurt him." A couple things are at play here. First, she may not have the skill of confronting the other with the truth in a way that brings reconciliation and understanding. She believes truth telling is destructive or entails some sort of drama. Neither is true. The truth is never destructive and can be conveyed in loving ways. (With that said, what we believe to be the truth may indeed be a distorted perception that fits our personal needs.)

Or, she may see the other person as a wimp; someone she believes cannot handle rigorous personal confrontation. She doesn't trust that the other person has the internal strength or stamina or skills to be in a relationship of mutual respect and equality. The other person picks up on this mistrust and does what he does (feigns inadequacy and incompetence) to avoid the personal confrontation as well. A dance is acted out.

Believe and know in your heart that the other person, somewhere and somehow, beneath the games, has the internal strength and capacity to handle anything. Such trust builds trust in the other person and begins to pervade the relationship. "Hey, she thinks I can handle this! Hmmmm, this is mighty good! I CAN engage her and be truly intimate!"



5. Be very very careful of keeping secrets.

If he knows there is an elephant in the room and doesn't talk about it, the elephant takes up tremendous space in the relationship. It takes energy for him to walk around it. She may not see the elephant but knows he is bending his neck to look around something. She will be curious, mildly disturbed, have feelings but no words to wrap around them, might wonder if something is wrong with her or struggle with trusting her intuition (her intuition KNOWS an elephant is there.) And, when we can't trust the messages that come from within us, we find it very difficult to trust the messages of the other person.

Secrets demand tremendous energy and erode trust. The relationship is doomed never to experience wall-banging intimacy. This is why extramarital affairs are so damaging. She is not so much concerned about him having sex with someone else as she is about the betrayal, lack of trust, the secrets and deception that are crazy making and energy draining.

Now, please. I'm not saying that you sit your partner down and divulge the 23 secrets of your illicit past behaviors. If you have resolved those, i.e. forgiven yourself, understand those behaviors, learned from them and were able to use them to make the internal shifts necessary for your personal development, they do not qualify as an elephant. Hopefully, in the course of growing intimacy in your relationship you may want to share some of those events as you disclose to your partner where you were and where you are now. You do so without emotional charge.

However, if a secret takes up room, i.e. still has an emotional charge and holds you back from disclosing more and more of yourself in the growing stages of intimacy, you have a problem that needs to be addressed with your partner.



6. Let YOUR needs be known - loudly.

Be a little - no, be a lot - self-centered. (Be self-centered, but not selfish!)

Here's a problem I run into almost every day. He is backing away (perhaps attached to work, another person, etc.). She feels the trust and intimacy eroding, is scared and wants to "win him back." So she begins an all out effort to "work on the marriage." She invites him to do so as well. He may reluctantly agree. She blasts full throttle ahead trying to "be nice" and meet every need he ever said he had. She's going to "fill his tank with goodies."

Doesn't work. Her eyes are riveted on him. He feels "smothered" or maybe even resentful: "Why is she doing this NOW!" She's hopeful, but eventually that turns to resentment. Her underlying motive - if I meet his needs, he will feel good and meet mine - just doesn't work. It's perceived as manipulation, which it is. Of course, he doesn't say anything. After all, how do you get angry with someone who is so "nice and caring?"

Trust disintegrates under a blanket of quiet niceties.

Start with your eyes focused on YOU. What do YOU need? Explore your personal need system. Dig beneath the surface. And then say to him: "I need…x, y and z. I would like to talk to you about them. I would like us to work out a way so my needs are met. Are you open to that?"

He is empowered to say yes or no. Or, he may say, "What about my needs?" You respond, "I am very interested in hearing what is important to you, certainly."

Have you ever been around someone who stated clearly what they needed/wanted?

Didn't you respect that person?

Because you knew where he stood, and therefore where you stood, didn't that interaction move toward a trusting relationship?



7. State who YOU are - loudly.

It is very sad to see those in relationships of emotional investment hold back from letting the other person know who they really are.

You build trust in a relationship by entrusting your SELF to the other person.

This sounds easy but I find it difficult for most to pull off. Most of us have a difficult time declaring our SELF. For one thing, if you're like most of us, you haven't given much thought to what it is that makes YOU truly YOU. Don't you feel like you glide through life on autopilot, focusing on tasks, goals, accomplishments, problems and the external realities?

Don't you tend to focus on those things out there or that person out there? You're concerned about what he is thinking, how he is responding to you, whether he likes you, whether he will be an obstacle and where he will fit in your life?

Your conversations may be pleasant but fairly superficial and bluntly, boringly inane. You converse about things/relationships/events out there. You are reluctant to share your thoughts, values, and impressions or take a stand. This doesn't destroy trust. But it doesn't create it either.

And, if you do take a stand it may serve the purpose of protecting you or entrenching you as you react against someone. This more often than not creates trust barriers.

Take some time to reflect on your standards. What are your standards for a relationship? What standards do you hold for yourself? What do you order your life around? What are the 4 top values in your life? What are some themes that you live by? What are you known for?

And then…begin letting significant people in your life know.

They will respect you. They will know you more deeply. They will thank you for the opportunity to know you. They will see you as a person of character.

They will trust you. They can count on you. They know exactly what is behind and within you.



8. Learn to say NO!

Sometimes you need to say NO! Often it is crucial to say NO!

Saying NO sets boundaries around you that protects you from being hurt or venturing into territory that will be destructive to your heart and soul. You draw a line. You stop tolerating that which drains energy and makes you less than YOU. You refuse to allow the destructive behaviors of others to destroy you. You build a moat around the core of your life.

You do this by informing the other person of what they are doing. You request they stop. If they don't stop, you demand they stop. If they don't stop you walk away without a snide remark, eye-roll or comment.

To some this seems harsh, but saying NO is RESPECTED.

Fear is the basis of mistrust. If you fear that someone will hurt you and believe you have no recourse but to endure that hurt, fear will prevail. How can you trust when you are in fear?

Saying NO, protecting yourself, sends a message to the other person that you will not live in fear. This usually triggers a response of respect from the other person. After all, if you can protect yourself and refuse subjugation to that which is destructive, will not the other person come to trust you and see you as a person who just might protect him/her from harm as well?



9. Charge Neutral.

When your significant other expresses something powerfully, charge neutral.

Most of us are afraid of strong feelings or points of contention in a relationship. I commonly hear people respond by defending themselves (to a perceived attack), explaining themselves, counter-attacking, shutting down, or walking away. Of course, the relationship remains stuck in this quagmire of mistrust and fear.

Rather than reacting and having your feelings flowing all over the place or shutting down, practice charging neutral.

Communicate calmness, not only in your tone of voice but also in how you carry your body. Don't speak with a charge to your voice. Control your voice! Say what you must say, state the truth and do it directly and calmly.

You can do this, once you master your fears. It will dramatically change the flow of the relationship.

You will be able to point out something big, without making a big deal out of it. You will be in control of you. This not only feels great, but your partner trusts that you won't fly or fall apart.

You will experience your personal power. This makes you very attractive. Don't people really trust someone who knows their personal power and how to use it for the welfare of themselves and others?

Your partner will love the fact that she can trust you consistently to operate from your "quiet center," remain engaged, not back down and speak the truth with conviction and calmness.



10. Dig into the dirt.

Relationships of emotional investment, by their nature, bring trials, tribulations, fears, chaos, turmoil, change, stretching and growth. They become the grist from which your life is shaped and formed.

Be fearless when faced with turmoil, upset, crisis, questions, and fears. When the time is right, seek them out. Move toward the frightening unknown. Dig into the dirt of your relationship and uncover the treasures. Do you really TRUST that this can happen?

The purpose of your relationship is not to make you happy. Do you realize this? Happiness may be an outcome, but your other is given to you to move you to where you really want to be.

Obstacles, trials and moments of pain are given as lessons on which you intentionally write the script of your life individually and together. Embrace the difficult. Trust that in this embracing you will find more of your true self.

Trust that you are given the resources and capacity to face what you and your significant other are to face.

Once you are able to believe and trust these ultimate purposes, trusting your significant other will be that much more easy.


Dale
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3 Tips You Wish You Know Earlier Before You Go Into Any Type of Relationship!

If you are in a relationship right now, or are thinking of
going into one, there are 3 very important tips you should
know and questions you should ask yourself before you ever
get yourself into a relationship. This could save you from a
lot of heartache and pain when you are involved in a love
relationship.

(1) Your lover does not owe you your happiness, peace or
joy.
Happiness is a state of mind we choose to have. All of your
happiness, and all of your suffering, are created by you and
they do not come from outside of you, or from others. Before
you go into any type of relationship, ask yourself these
questions: "Do I really, really, really know how to walk
away from disappointment and fear? Will I be able to find
the person that I am now even after I go into this
relationship and begin a new way of life?" In short, you
should not be dependent on your partner on your emotional
needs. You yourself are responsible for your own feelings
and creating positive experiences for both your partner and
you whenever you are together.

(2) Love your partner for who they are.
No one in this world is perfect. One day you will find your
partner doing certain things or saying certain things that
will hurt you, disappoint you or anger you. Before you go
into any type of relationship, you have to ask yourself:
"Will I be able to love my partner for who they are. If I am
unhappy or angry with something they have said or done, will
I be able to recognize my unhappiness or anger as against
their speech, actions and behavior, and not against their
persons?"

(3) Will I be able to love myself as much as I love my
partner?
If you cannot love yourself, how are you going to give love
to another? This is a mistake most people make when they go
into a relationship. They become over-obsessive with what
they can give to their partners and what they can do for
their partners. To ensure a fulfilling relationship, you
have to learn to take care of your own needs as well. A true
partner or lover is one who will make sure that you do not
become too dependent on them. You are responsible for your
own feelings and your own emotional needs too. You are a
beautiful being. So, take care of yourself, love yourself,
treat yourself to all the good things in life too, and do
the same to your partner. Very soon you will find true love
always coming your way without any effort on your part!

As always, if you are encountering problems in your
relationship, try to dissolve all of your problems in love.
And you'll be sure you are on your way to a peaceful and
fulfilling relationship!

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Where Are The Erogenous Zones?

There are very obvious ones and many mystery ones. I am going to try and identify both and give you some hints on how to use them. The female body is exactly like a work of art and then you mix mans curiosity in there then you have lots of factors into what drives men and women crazy with desire.

A mans body is pretty simple when it comes to erogenous zones. Man does have some hidden zones but for the most part any one can turn on a man and they know the exact places a man desires to be touched. Women are very different in this aspect. They have many more erogenous zones. Once a skilled lover finds these he can make the woman reach for the stars begging for more.

It’s easy to read articles like this and think you can find everything that turns a woman on. The misconception there is that every woman is different there fore they respond differently to different variations. It’s not always easy to find these zones on a woman.

1. The Feet

If you asked most people they would say that most erogenous zones on a woman would be found in the upper body. However one of the most erogenous zones on a woman is her feet. Women love to have their feet caressed and kissed. If you do this she will love you forever. Behind the knees is also a spot that can send your lover over the edge.

2. The Head

The head believe it or not has very many erogenous zones. The lips would come in first for being a very sensitive spot. Of course we all know what kissing the neck does. Ladies always like to hear you whisper beautiful things in her ears as you are nibbling on them.

3. The Buttocks

One of the hottest spots on a lady is her buttocks. Almost all women love to be touched on her buttocks while some even enjoy a little tap. And of course this is a good mix because there isn’t a guy out there who doesn’t like to caress a nice soft, round, firm butt.

4. The Breasts

I would be amiss if I didn’t mention breasts. Probably the most favorite spot for fondling men. We do however have to be careful. Once again all women are not alike and believe it or not there are women who are not turned on by breast action. Women can also be turned off if you are too anxious to get at their breasts.

5. The Clitoris

Of course the most erogenous spot on any women’s body is the clitoris. It is probably the biggest hot spot for erotic sensations. It is here that you can let your fingers and lips play as much as you like as long as your partner has no objections. It is important for a man to get to know this spot because it is usually the base to all good sexual relationships.

One thing we need to remember is that the erogenous zones are only one part to a good sexual relationship. They are simply used to increase a woman’s pleasure and passion. One thing that is usually bigger than this is everything that leads up to the erogenous zones. If your not a gentleman and go through the courting process properly then you wont even get to experience a women’s erogenous zones.

Dale Mazurek


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Massage As A Part Of Foreplay

We have talked about foreplay in the past and how important it is to great love making. What we are going to talk about in this article is how a sensual massage can be a great part of foreplay.

A romantic candle light dinner and a sensual massage. There really isn’t anything better than this combination. Here is a map of how things should progress. First the two of you should have your intimate dinner and then you should make your move. I absolutely do not mean going straight into intercourse. Surprise your girl with a massage. This will tell her that she’s driving you crazy and that you want to feel every part of her body. At this moment there is no time to think about any of your worries. You have to focus your time entirely on making your girl feel hot and sexy. A good massage isn’t something that happens quickly. It takes a good long time to make all of her most intimate places feel great. This isn’t a normal massage. This massage is meant to heighten all the senses and lead into true passionate love making.

Having a couple of romantic CDs to heighten the mood is a great idea. There are also many other supplies that you may need for a truly great massage. Candles, incense, massage oils, clean towels and clean sheets because the sheets are going to get messy with the oils. Start with a soft massage because the first key should be to help your lover relax and get into the right mood. What you want to do is tease her a bit by playing with her erogenous zones, but avoid her breasts and vagina. You want to go slow and focus on languid strokes while rubbing each other bodies together. It’s important to find a good rhythm and include all body parts.

Now you’re going to want to move right in but this could be your biggest mistake. You can’t move any faster than you have been and believe it or not you should ask permission to go any further. You might have made her feel so good that she may not want to go any further. If she does agree to go further then you can start massaging her private parts. Another great way to help in this is the use of toys if both of you are in agreement.

Dale Mazurek

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Man Confidence

We know that women love their men strong and confident. They love a man that will embrace them and someone who can admit to his mistakes. This article is meant to make issues about men’s confidence a little clearer.

Confidence can only start with right attitude and positive thinking. You have to work on insecurities instead of letting them affect your everyday life. First and foremost you have to believe in yourself because how can you show confidence if you don’t have self belief.

Two many guys deal with what ifs. You can what if everything you do but living like that will just get you depressed. You have to watch your own confidence so if it’s lacking then you have to work on it.

First of all appearance does matter. That doesn’t mean you have to attain Hollywood looks to have confidence. Boyish good looks, magnetism, or big bulging muscles isn’t all it has to be. The important part is to look neat and tidy. Let your charm radiate from within. It really is the simple things that count. Make sure you open doors for girls, get a cab for her. You can be a knight in shining honor with out a white steed.

Another thing to remember is that girls like bad boys. I don’t mean bad boys through criminal behavior but more through mystery and excitement. These kinds of guys are just happy to be themselves. They don’t need approval to be liked. Bad boys exude confidence, individuality, and masculinity.

Guys without confidence are always looking for approval from women. They always act needy and desperate. Guys like this don’t have the confidence to build a relationship so they try and buy relationships with expensive gifts and taking the girls to classy restaurants. Well this might be nice it’s not what women are really looking for in a man.

Women just want a man that’s not scared to show his feelings or to share their feelings. She wants someone that will listen and someone who will give her a hug. Sex is important but any girl would put sex second if she has a strong guy who will be there for her

Dale Mazurek

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Love And Its Sparks

So many people have so much in their lives but they are missing that one important part in their lives. In this article I will attempt to help you realise just how important love is in your life.
Your bank account is full of cash, you have job security, you have a great reputation, you own your own home, and your health is as great as it can be but still there is something missing in your life that’s keeping you from being happy. You haven’t found someone to love. You now realize that life without love is like your missing a part of your soul.
You have to realize that love is meant to be for life. Love isn’t days, weeks, months or even years but it should be forever. You have to learn how to keep the sparks going in a relationship in order to keep the relationship bright forever.
The short term relationships that we all encounter at one point or another are absolutely useless to our bodies and souls. You will never be happy with the short relationships. A long healthy relationship will keep your soul healthy, happy and joyful.
It is very easy to fall in love but very difficult to keep the sparks burning in that relationship. So before you commit to a long term relationship make sure your partner is as serious as you are. If your partner isn’t serious than the relationship can turn miserable in a hurry so you should get rid of that person and continue looking.
Too many people put their careers in front of their relationships and this is the worst thing you can do. You have to find a convenient balance between the two of them and then it will work. For your soul it’s absolutely important not to starve your soul from love just for your job.
All too often people split up after many successful years in a relationship. Everyone around you is genuinely surprised when they hear of the split up. In order to avoid this you have to make sure the communication inside the relationship always stays open. Talk to each other. A gentle kiss and a caressing touch will go a long way. If all else fails there is no shame in going to counselling to help make the relationship last.
Finding the right person to share the rest of your life with can be a great journey. It’s a ride that you want to take carefully. You need to find someone that shares your values, dreams, fantasies, joys and jokes. You also need someone who will stand by you during the hard times. This person has to be able to understand you and console you through every tough moment you may encounter in your life time.
Keeping those sparks going in your relationship at times can be very difficult but at the end of the day I will guarantee you that it will be worth it to be able to spend the rest of your life with someone you consider your best friend and soul mate.


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How To Get Clues That Your Partner Is Cheating (Part 3)

Cheating can be one of the most devastating things that can happen to a man or woman in a committed relationship. In the next few articles I intend to bring you up to speed on some clues that you can watch for if you have any thoughts that your partner may be cheating. This will be the second article on this discussion.

Let’s go back to the beginning of a relationship. What really happens before two people decide to get married? They have been dating and checking each other out. We all know that women do the choosing. Men respond to women’s signals and a relationship moves forward at a pace governed by the women’s appetite. So how does a couple who is totally in love and committed to each other end up in the predicament dictated by cheating.

1. You start to notice that he is cleaning his car out every day. He is especially careful to make sure that nothing belonging to the kids is in the car. He won’t allow the car seat or any toys for that fact.
2. You come home from work; your wife tells you that she is going out for coffee with one of her girlfriends. You notice that she’s not wearing her wedding ring.
3. The two of you have been married for several years and your husband has never offered to help you with the laundry but now all of the sudden he always wants to do the laundry as if he has something to hide.
4. You get home from a business trip. You go to give your spouse a kiss and you notice scratches on him or her. When you ask there is no explanation.
5. Things in the bedroom have always been pretty normal but now all of a sudden your spouse wants to start doing new things in the bedroom.
6. The two of you have always enjoyed a pretty good sex life but now all of a sudden your spouse doesn’t want to have sex any more.
7. Then there is the opposite. You guys have had a fairly normal sex life but all of a sudden your spouse wants a lot more sex.
8. Your spouse has been doing a lot of overtime in the last couple of months but at the end of the month the amount of money that goes into the bank account never changes.

This is part three of a short series on clues that your partner is cheating. By all means you can’t take these clues as gospel. Before doing anything rational I would suggest waiting for the rest of the articles to come out and even then I would be careful before accusing someone of something you don’t have proof of.

Dale Mazurek
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Men Are You Ejaculating Too Fast?

Through my research I have found out that approximately 29% of men are bothered by premature ejaculation. Men and women dread this situation and for good reason. Premature ejaculation can steal precious tender moments with your loved one.

Guilt, anxiety, lack of experience or fear of something like pregnancy are all common reasons for premature ejaculation. Traditionally men are lucky to last 3 minutes after penetration while women last about 12 minutes. In a lot of cases older men do have a little more control then younger guys and this would simply be credited to experience.

1. So now you would like to know how to control premature ejaculation. Your main sexual muscle is called the pc muscle. Exercising this muscle can definitely help. With regular exercise of the pc muscle you can maintain harder and larger erections as well as have more intense climaxes at ejaculation.

2. So now you are wondering exactly where this muscle is. Next time you’re urinating try stopping halfway through. The muscle is located between the scrotum and the anus. You will feel it contract when you try to stop the flow of urine.


3. Now you probably want to know the best way to excursive this muscle. You want to do three sets of ten second clenching and releasing the muscle. Take a short rest and then do this for five second intervals. Do it ten times this time. Lastly try clenching for 30 seconds and then relaxing for 30 seconds. Do this three times.

4. This exercise is no different than any other exercise. You have to commit to doing it regularly. The nice thing is that it can be done by you at any time and without the help of any equipment. It is rumored that famous porn stars use these exercises regularly.

Next time you and your partner are making love try and pause for a while once inside her. Don’t move for a few seconds. After that try the relaxing and clenching techniques. It’s very important to know how your partner likes to make love. Some like it hard and fast while others like slow and sensual. Knowing this will go great strides in helping to prevent premature ejaculation.

Dale Mazurek

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What To And Not To Do During Kissing

Don’t ever think you know there is everything to know about sex. No matter what you know and practice there is always going to be small things you haven’t learnt yet. I’m sure you have better things to do with your life than trying to learn everything about sex so when you can learn a new tip it definitely doesn’t hurt you.
1. Kissing is one of the oldest expressions of love. You can see it everywhere from a mother kissing her child good night. A grandmother giving her grandchild a good bye kiss or a very romantic French kiss between two lovers.
2. Nobody was born knowing how to kiss so just like anything else you get better with practice. It’s not an easy thing to get a bunch of practice in this so don’t be embarrassed when you’re not very good at it at first.
3. We can thank the French for introducing the act of French Kissing. While kissing has always been a universal sign of love French Kissing or the intimate play of tongues was introduced to us by the western world, from there it has spread around the world.
4. You can’t rush that first kiss with a new girl. You have to make sure that the girl is willing to go for this kiss. If she looks nervous and fidgety then it might not be the right time to go for that first kiss. This might be a good time to give her some space.
5. I would not recommend French kissing on the first date unless you know the date your on is only meant for one thing. Other than that French kissing should be saved for the last or next date.
6. Girls hate when guys shove their tongues down their throats and make it impossible for them to breathe. Therefore you as a guy have to be careful to keep it comfortable for the girl. Remember your sharing a very intimate moment so if you make it uncomfortable the feelings will be gone out of it real quick.
7. If you really want to turn your girl off then come at her with your tongue hanging out. This will turn off even the most promiscuous girl. You have to be able to read her and if the girl is willing to get a little friskier then use your imagination and go ahead and push a little farther.
Most times taking it slow is the best way to go. However if you and your partner come out of a long passionate kissing session tired and exhausted then you are probably headed in the right direction. It means she is enjoying it as much as you and chances are she will go further but remember rushing things will get you into trouble.
Dale has been married for over twenty years and because of this considers himself somewhat of a relationship expert. You can check out his relationship blog at http://relationshiptidbits.blogspot.com/
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Is Your Man Insecure And Jealous

Jealousy can be the destruction of a great relationship. Jealousy is usually brought on by some sort of insecurities in a man. In this article we will take a brief look into what brings on insecurities to a man.

He finally has the girl of his dreams. She is the hottest on the block. You can’t stop thinking about her. Every time the two of you are out together you keep her close to your side. You look at the other guys carefully to make sure none of them are going to try and move in on your girl. You constantly think every other guy is trying to take her away from you. When the two of you are apart you have to call her all the time. If she tells you that she’s going out with friends you always think the worst. Instead of it being girlfriends like she said you think she is secretly meeting with old boyfriends. This of course sends you into a jealous rage.

1. You have to always be around your girl. Your there to give her anything she needs. You are always buying her stuff with little letters attached. Instead of using your time to build the relationship properly you’re devoting all your time to being over protective. You turn the relationship into a one sided control issue. You always have some sort of excuse as to why the two of you should be together. It’s gotten so bad that even her girlfriends are questioning whether this relationship is for the right reasons.
2. Do you even realize that you are doing this and do you know why? You have probably had bad relationships in the past. It’s going to take you a long time to believe in loyalty, trust and honesty again. You want to make sure that the past failures never happen again. So it doesnt matter what she likes you promise yourself that you will do anything to make this work. In turn you don’t even realize that you are doing more harm than good.
3. A big reason for male insecurity stems from the bedroom and correlates from the deficient size of a man’s member. Big or small lots of men aren’t happy with the size of their member. They always think it has to be bigger to make the relationship succeed. Because if they think they can’t please their lady then they have to substitute it with something else. This reason alone explains the lucrative business of penis enlargement.
4. Another reason for insecurity is finances. Men feel they have to be making enough money to take over the world. The more they can spend on their lady makes them think they are more desirable. It makes them feel like the woman will want to stay for this reason.

Men are no different than women when it comes to certain needs. Men just want to be loved, cared for and pampered. They need to feel important and respected by their lady.
So as a man what can you do to overcome these insecurities? First of all you have to learn to like yourself again. Do an assessment on yourself and see what you come up with. Change your hair style, work on your looks. Go to the gym and work on your body. Try new things like going to a museum or to a play. If you want to keep this lady you have to stop your insecurities from taking over the relationship. You have to make sure you treat her with the same respect you want for yourself.

Dale has been married for twenty years and has seen everything in a relationship. Check out his interactive relationship blog at http://relationshiptidbits.blogspot.com/ You can also check out a couple of his other blogs at http://funtidbits.blogspot.com/ and http://fishingtutor.blogspot.com/
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