5 Tips For Successful Relationships!"

Love conquers all, right?" Well----it's suppose to.
But most marriages will end in divorce. Most of their
problems are about the children, money, or in-laws.
When couples commit to a long relationship, there are
specific personality traits they should have in common.
1. Similiar physical texture (thick skinned/thin skinned)
2. Similiar emotional stability
3. Similiar degree of tolerance
4. Similiar intelligence/understanding of situations
5. Similar Interests

Without these five traits, the couple live on difference
planes, different worlds. They are inclined to drift
apart.

Couples grow by adjusting to their differences, but some
times, the amount of the difference may be too much.

Love provides the reason for being willing to adjust to
the other person's difference from yours.

A frequent question is; "How do I know it's real love?"
The answer may be that when you are enjoying something
special - ex: a movie, a sunset, flower, song, and you
long to have your partner to share it with. The
degree of longing will determine how much in love you are.

Growth in a relationship should come from; doing things
together, allowing things to happen, accepting them as
is, and changing what you can. It involves sharing and
caring.

Couples usually don't mind working at their relationship
as long as they have a closeness to each other. They
don't want divorce, they want understanding. Divorce is
usually a rebellion at not being able to get through to
each other. The couple are still in love, that's why it
hurts so much to part.

There is a story of a couple who had been engaged for
seven years. The young lady didn't have the courage to
commit. They had their personalities profiled and
learned to adjust to each other's personalities. They
understood each other as individuals and their relationship
flourished.

Dale
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5 TIPS FOR AVOIDING A SUMMER FLING

The author of the wildly popular bestseller Pretty Boys is back with a new
book The Hamptons that posed the question, "When is a fling not just a fling?"
Answer: When it happens in the Hamptons. The Hamptons is the perfect novel for
this summer season--and teaches life lessons for men and women.

While it may seem pretty simple to understand why women who are lonely and
seeking any form of affection from the opposite sex routinely find themselves
having non-committed sexual flings, flings themselves are still detrimental to
the psyche and although a women may go into a fling agreeing to the terms, they
still leave not only emotional scars, but can plant seeds of bitterness that

will taint future relationships for years to come. Here are 5 surefire tips to
avoiding those dreaded hook-ups all year long.

1. BELIEVE that you are enough. Even if you're single, divorced, widowed or
fit into another category trust that you are precious enough to warrant the
best and be treated with respect. It doesn't matter how good looking he or she
is, if you don't believe in yourself, and honor your own worth, who will?

2. THINK and be rational. Life is nothing like the movies so don't be so
quick to romanticize everything you see, feel, taste, hear. What do you know about
this person you're meeting? Put on your high beams, take the time to process

everything that's going on around you--take it slow and don't rush into
anything.

3. LISTEN to your inner voice; it's the voice we mostly ignore and it lands
us in a heap of trouble time and time again when we dismiss it. Learn to read
between the lines and listen to what he or she is NOT saying as well as what

they are saying. If you hear or see something that sends up a red flag--heed the
warning. When all else fails remind yourself of what your mother would say in
a situation like this--she's probably right.

4. SEPARATE your feelings from having a good time. One has nothing to do with
the other. In an instance where you two have just met, do not allow the
oceans waves, a good meal, a sultry voice or too many glasses of wine sway you into
believing the experience is something that its not. You both had individual
lives before you met and will more than likely continue to after it ends.

5. ACCOUNTABILITY partner. If you don't have one, now is a good time to find

someone who will agree in advance not to coddle you or allow you to act
emotionally or sexually reckless in public or in private. Never go it alone--be it
vacations or a dinner party, always take your accountability partner along with
you--they'll come in handy and you won't wake up with morning after regrets.

Dale
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