10 Things You Should Never Say to a Guy

Ladies, if you want to have a successful dating life, certain phrases should never come out of your glossy lips. Here they are:

1. WHEN WILL I SEE YOU AGAIN? You’ll see him when you see him. If he wants to see you again, he’ll call. If not, next. You don’t have time for anyone that doesn’t have time for you.

2. WHY DIDN’T YOU CALL? There’s only one answer to this question: Because he didn’t want to!!! What you’re really asking is, “Why didn’t you want to call me?” Who knows!! There could be a lot of reasons, but you shouldn’t be sitting around wondering why. You should be out dating lots of different guys and not worrying about ONE guy. Don’t be so quick to put all your eggs into one basket, because if they break, it’s a big mess!

3. WHERE WERE YOU? If he wanted you to know where he was, he’d tell you. What you’re really asking is, “Where you with another female that you like better than me?” Your insecurity is showing, my dear. If anything, he should be wondering where you were.

4. I LOVE YOU (FIRST) - You’re saying it in the hopes that he’ll say it back, but what if he doesn’t? You’ll be devastated and probably feel foolish. Saying “I love you” is not going to speed things up if he’s not ready to say it back. So just cool it, and let him be the first to say it when he’s ready.

5. DID YOU SLEEP WITH HER? As long as he’s not sleeping with her now, who cares? The past is gone. Don’t torture yourself (and him) with these thoughts. In this case, ignorance really is bliss.

6. I’M PREGNANT. In 2005, with all the birth control choices available, there is no excuse for becoming pregnant, unless you want to be. You should be using something and he should use a condom, every time.

7. WHERE IS THIS GOING? Nowhere fast if that’s your attitude. Guys want someone fun and easy to be with, not someone that’s constantly worrying about the future. His actions or non-actions will tell you where it’s going. If it’s going somewhere, you’ll know it. If it’s not, you’ll know it too.

8. WE NEED TO TALK. This is the equivalent of, “Go to the principal’s office”. Guys know it’s not going to be a fun conversation, so they’re already on the defense. If you need to discuss something, just casually bring it up when the both of you are relaxed. Don’t try to talk to him when he’s tired, stressed or trying to watch tv!

9. I HATE YOU! Even if you do, it’s totally uncalled for and un-lady like. If there’s an issue, be mature enough to discuss it when you’re calm. If he’s breaking up with you, reacting with anger may make you feel better temporarily, but it’s best to remain calm and act unfazed. He’ll wonder why you’re so cool about it and that may make him re-think his decision. Always be pleasant during a break up. Do you want to be known as the girl that goes psycho if someone breaks up with her?? I didn’t think so.

10. I DON’T TRUST YOU. What you’re actually saying is, “You need to step up your game, because I can see you’re up to something.” If he is up to something, he’ll just become even sneakier. Better to think smart and act dumb-it’ll be easier to get the evidence you need to confirm your suspicions.


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10 Crucial and Surprising Steps to Build Trust in a Relationship

1. Be predictable.

When do seeds of suspicion emerge? When one begins to think, What's up? Why is he doing that? He's never done that before. That is so unlike him. He loses 30 pounds, buys a new wardrobe and comes home late from work. He changes his patterns. His behavior becomes unpredictable. You get the picture? Any movement away from predictable behavior can become suspect and trust can deteriorate.

Focus on acting predictably if you need to build trust. Be consistent in what you do.

This doesn't mean you must be boring. If there is a twinkle in your eye and a dose of spontaneity every so often, for goodness sakes be spontaneous and fun loving. But, be spontaneous consistently! Be true to who you have always been and be that consistently, whoever you tend to be!



2. Inform your significant other when you become "unpredictable."

No one goes through life the same person. We all make shifts and changes. Frankly sometimes we may be fairly clueless about what is happening and where we are going. Those times may be very intense and we do some silly things or make some downright dumb decisions. Life can get very squirrelly and unpredictable. (I have a favorite phrase: Gold is refined through intense heat.) Growth in an individual, marriage or family often is accompanied by a little chaos.

Welcome these shifts, for there is a part of you searching for something better/different/richer/deeper, but for heaven's sake, inform your partner of what you are experiencing. Say, "I really don't know what is going on in me right now, but I'm moving in a different direction. Be a little patient with me while I figure this out. I might do some silly things, but my intent is not to harm you or scare you. Accept some of my wondering and wandering and please be there for me? I may need to run some of this by you every so often!"



3. Make sure your words match the message.

Mean what you say and say what you mean. When your partner hears one thing in your words but your tone of voice, body language and facial expressions are really saying something else, you open the relationship to some crazy making days. Which message is she to believe? This can waste a tremendous amount of energy and she learns not to trust part of what you are saying.

Here's a very simple but common example. You are getting ready to go to a formal dinner. Your wife comes to you and says, "How do I look?" (And she's wearing a dress you don't particularly like and her hair is pulled back in a way that turns you off.)

Not to spoil the evening you enthusiastically say, "You look great." You don't really mean it and a part of her knows you really don't mean it. But, you leave it at that.

This might not seem like a big deal - we all have done something similar - but if trust is shaky to begin with, it is even shakier now.

Here's how to match the words with the nonverbal: "I think you are a beautiful person. I want you to know that. I love you dearly and it will be wonderful to have you by my side tonight. Others will see your beauty. (As you say this, you look into her eyes as you put your hands around her waist.)

She's not concerned so much with how she looks but is expressing a need for affirmation. She's not talking about her dress or hair, but about wanting to know the evening is going to go just fine. You respond to the real message.

You can take this one step further, if you like. At some point you might bring up her need for affirmation and talk about that. Ask her is there is anything you can say or do so that need is met.

Trust is awareness of the intent beneath the obvious message and responding to that!



4. Believe the other person is competent.

I hear this phrase very often: "But, I don't want to hurt him." A couple things are at play here. First, she may not have the skill of confronting the other with the truth in a way that brings reconciliation and understanding. She believes truth telling is destructive or entails some sort of drama. Neither is true. The truth is never destructive and can be conveyed in loving ways. (With that said, what we believe to be the truth may indeed be a distorted perception that fits our personal needs.)

Or, she may see the other person as a wimp; someone she believes cannot handle rigorous personal confrontation. She doesn't trust that the other person has the internal strength or stamina or skills to be in a relationship of mutual respect and equality. The other person picks up on this mistrust and does what he does (feigns inadequacy and incompetence) to avoid the personal confrontation as well. A dance is acted out.

Believe and know in your heart that the other person, somewhere and somehow, beneath the games, has the internal strength and capacity to handle anything. Such trust builds trust in the other person and begins to pervade the relationship. "Hey, she thinks I can handle this! Hmmmm, this is mighty good! I CAN engage her and be truly intimate!"



5. Be very very careful of keeping secrets.

If he knows there is an elephant in the room and doesn't talk about it, the elephant takes up tremendous space in the relationship. It takes energy for him to walk around it. She may not see the elephant but knows he is bending his neck to look around something. She will be curious, mildly disturbed, have feelings but no words to wrap around them, might wonder if something is wrong with her or struggle with trusting her intuition (her intuition KNOWS an elephant is there.) And, when we can't trust the messages that come from within us, we find it very difficult to trust the messages of the other person.

Secrets demand tremendous energy and erode trust. The relationship is doomed never to experience wall-banging intimacy. This is why extramarital affairs are so damaging. She is not so much concerned about him having sex with someone else as she is about the betrayal, lack of trust, the secrets and deception that are crazy making and energy draining.

Now, please. I'm not saying that you sit your partner down and divulge the 23 secrets of your illicit past behaviors. If you have resolved those, i.e. forgiven yourself, understand those behaviors, learned from them and were able to use them to make the internal shifts necessary for your personal development, they do not qualify as an elephant. Hopefully, in the course of growing intimacy in your relationship you may want to share some of those events as you disclose to your partner where you were and where you are now. You do so without emotional charge.

However, if a secret takes up room, i.e. still has an emotional charge and holds you back from disclosing more and more of yourself in the growing stages of intimacy, you have a problem that needs to be addressed with your partner.



6. Let YOUR needs be known - loudly.

Be a little - no, be a lot - self-centered. (Be self-centered, but not selfish!)

Here's a problem I run into almost every day. He is backing away (perhaps attached to work, another person, etc.). She feels the trust and intimacy eroding, is scared and wants to "win him back." So she begins an all out effort to "work on the marriage." She invites him to do so as well. He may reluctantly agree. She blasts full throttle ahead trying to "be nice" and meet every need he ever said he had. She's going to "fill his tank with goodies."

Doesn't work. Her eyes are riveted on him. He feels "smothered" or maybe even resentful: "Why is she doing this NOW!" She's hopeful, but eventually that turns to resentment. Her underlying motive - if I meet his needs, he will feel good and meet mine - just doesn't work. It's perceived as manipulation, which it is. Of course, he doesn't say anything. After all, how do you get angry with someone who is so "nice and caring?"

Trust disintegrates under a blanket of quiet niceties.

Start with your eyes focused on YOU. What do YOU need? Explore your personal need system. Dig beneath the surface. And then say to him: "I need…x, y and z. I would like to talk to you about them. I would like us to work out a way so my needs are met. Are you open to that?"

He is empowered to say yes or no. Or, he may say, "What about my needs?" You respond, "I am very interested in hearing what is important to you, certainly."

Have you ever been around someone who stated clearly what they needed/wanted?

Didn't you respect that person?

Because you knew where he stood, and therefore where you stood, didn't that interaction move toward a trusting relationship?



7. State who YOU are - loudly.

It is very sad to see those in relationships of emotional investment hold back from letting the other person know who they really are.

You build trust in a relationship by entrusting your SELF to the other person.

This sounds easy but I find it difficult for most to pull off. Most of us have a difficult time declaring our SELF. For one thing, if you're like most of us, you haven't given much thought to what it is that makes YOU truly YOU. Don't you feel like you glide through life on autopilot, focusing on tasks, goals, accomplishments, problems and the external realities?

Don't you tend to focus on those things out there or that person out there? You're concerned about what he is thinking, how he is responding to you, whether he likes you, whether he will be an obstacle and where he will fit in your life?

Your conversations may be pleasant but fairly superficial and bluntly, boringly inane. You converse about things/relationships/events out there. You are reluctant to share your thoughts, values, and impressions or take a stand. This doesn't destroy trust. But it doesn't create it either.

And, if you do take a stand it may serve the purpose of protecting you or entrenching you as you react against someone. This more often than not creates trust barriers.

Take some time to reflect on your standards. What are your standards for a relationship? What standards do you hold for yourself? What do you order your life around? What are the 4 top values in your life? What are some themes that you live by? What are you known for?

And then…begin letting significant people in your life know.

They will respect you. They will know you more deeply. They will thank you for the opportunity to know you. They will see you as a person of character.

They will trust you. They can count on you. They know exactly what is behind and within you.



8. Learn to say NO!

Sometimes you need to say NO! Often it is crucial to say NO!

Saying NO sets boundaries around you that protects you from being hurt or venturing into territory that will be destructive to your heart and soul. You draw a line. You stop tolerating that which drains energy and makes you less than YOU. You refuse to allow the destructive behaviors of others to destroy you. You build a moat around the core of your life.

You do this by informing the other person of what they are doing. You request they stop. If they don't stop, you demand they stop. If they don't stop you walk away without a snide remark, eye-roll or comment.

To some this seems harsh, but saying NO is RESPECTED.

Fear is the basis of mistrust. If you fear that someone will hurt you and believe you have no recourse but to endure that hurt, fear will prevail. How can you trust when you are in fear?

Saying NO, protecting yourself, sends a message to the other person that you will not live in fear. This usually triggers a response of respect from the other person. After all, if you can protect yourself and refuse subjugation to that which is destructive, will not the other person come to trust you and see you as a person who just might protect him/her from harm as well?



9. Charge Neutral.

When your significant other expresses something powerfully, charge neutral.

Most of us are afraid of strong feelings or points of contention in a relationship. I commonly hear people respond by defending themselves (to a perceived attack), explaining themselves, counter-attacking, shutting down, or walking away. Of course, the relationship remains stuck in this quagmire of mistrust and fear.

Rather than reacting and having your feelings flowing all over the place or shutting down, practice charging neutral.

Communicate calmness, not only in your tone of voice but also in how you carry your body. Don't speak with a charge to your voice. Control your voice! Say what you must say, state the truth and do it directly and calmly.

You can do this, once you master your fears. It will dramatically change the flow of the relationship.

You will be able to point out something big, without making a big deal out of it. You will be in control of you. This not only feels great, but your partner trusts that you won't fly or fall apart.

You will experience your personal power. This makes you very attractive. Don't people really trust someone who knows their personal power and how to use it for the welfare of themselves and others?

Your partner will love the fact that she can trust you consistently to operate from your "quiet center," remain engaged, not back down and speak the truth with conviction and calmness.



10. Dig into the dirt.

Relationships of emotional investment, by their nature, bring trials, tribulations, fears, chaos, turmoil, change, stretching and growth. They become the grist from which your life is shaped and formed.

Be fearless when faced with turmoil, upset, crisis, questions, and fears. When the time is right, seek them out. Move toward the frightening unknown. Dig into the dirt of your relationship and uncover the treasures. Do you really TRUST that this can happen?

The purpose of your relationship is not to make you happy. Do you realize this? Happiness may be an outcome, but your other is given to you to move you to where you really want to be.

Obstacles, trials and moments of pain are given as lessons on which you intentionally write the script of your life individually and together. Embrace the difficult. Trust that in this embracing you will find more of your true self.

Trust that you are given the resources and capacity to face what you and your significant other are to face.

Once you are able to believe and trust these ultimate purposes, trusting your significant other will be that much more easy.


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7 Myths About Creating A Better Relationship

Here are 7 of the most common misconceptions my clients have related to me about having a better relationship. These misconceptions are followed by my perspective on each one of them.

Myth 1 I have to love everything about my partner

Reality Check 1

You were born pure and pristine. You then learnt behaviors from your parents, teacher, coaches, church etc. (who did their best to teach you about a better relationship). These behaviors have become the backbone for your way of living and having a better relationship.

Perhaps a common behavior that irritates having a better relationship would be leaving the toilet seat up after use. This is merely a behavior and not the essence of the person. However, when you may consider this behavior to be the person, this destroys the concept of a better relationship, creating all kinds of conflict in your need for a better relationship.

Myth 2 Love means that I can fix your partner

Reality Check 2

You met your partner because of some special quality or charteristic that you admired. You need to accept and allow that quality to flourish in order to allow you and your partner to grow into a better relationship.

You may be unaware that you do not even like yourself. Yet by allowing your partner to grow and expand, you will experience the quality of your partner and the beauty within you, as you begin to enjoy a better relationship.

Myth 3

I am supposed to give up the things I like in order to be in a better relationship.

Reality Check 3

Giving up the things you like to be in a better relationship is like take a knife and cutting away a part of yourself.

Your better relationship is based on the uniqueness of you and your partner.

When you give up your uniqueness you rob yourself of a better relationship, your passion and your partner of your creativity.

Myth 4 I will be rescued by a knight in shining armour

Reality Check 4

You may have been conditioned to live your life expecting someone to take care of you. What happens if that person becomes ill? and is no longer able to take care of you.

Your responsibility in creating a better relationship, is to bring your passion to the table of your relationship. Some days you will be the knight in shining armour and another day your partner will be the knight in shining armour of a better relationship.

You will each get a chance to shine like star in a better relationship because of your strengths and weaknesses.

Myth 5 It cost a lot to be in a relationship

Reality Check 5

In a material context, a better relationship can be expensive if you think that love is based on the bigger house, car or boat. Although some of these material assets are necessary, they should not be at the expense of creating a better relationship.

Love is creating a better relationship by building a relationship that is based on the simple things in life, like walking and holding hands, going on a picnic (just the two of you), or sharing an ice cream.

Love in a better relationship is not about what you show on the outside but what you express in you heart. Love is not about money or materialism, love just is.

Myth 6 Love in a relationship is or is not a feeling

Reality Check 6

It is not what you say, it is what you do. You can say, "I love you" which may be merely words and no feelings (action). Love is the action of doing.

If you make a cup of tea for yourself, (the water is boiled), make a cup of tea for your partner. Whether your partner wants the tea or not is irrelevant, it is the thought that counts and the action that cements a better relationship.

Myth 7 I don't have to work at my relationship

Reality Check 7

As a child, you learned to creep before you walked. Then you learned the letters of the alphabet. In order to write, you had to learn how to put those letters together to make words and sentences.

These sentences then become the way in which you communicated.

When you and your partner stop communicating after learning how to use the letters of the alphabet in sentences, it's like 2 tape recorders talking to each other - Nobody is at home to enjoy a better relationship.

In summary:

1. Your partner's behavior in a better relationship is not your partner's true essence.

2. There is no need to have a clone of yourself. A better relationship requires some variety.

3. Giving up of your uniqueness to be in a better relationship is like throwing out the baby with the bath water.

4. In a better relationship there are no superior partners, just equal partners.

5. Love in creating a better relationship is not about money and the material assets (although there are important) but the simple things in life.

6. Love in a better relationship is active not passive.

7. Lack of communication crushes your desire for a better relationship.



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5 Tips For Successful Relationships!"

Love conquers all, right?" Well----it's suppose to.
But most marriages will end in divorce. Most of their
problems are about the children, money, or in-laws.
When couples commit to a long relationship, there are
specific personality traits they should have in common.
1. Similiar physical texture (thick skinned/thin skinned)
2. Similiar emotional stability
3. Similiar degree of tolerance
4. Similiar intelligence/understanding of situations
5. Similar Interests

Without these five traits, the couple live on difference
planes, different worlds. They are inclined to drift
apart.

Couples grow by adjusting to their differences, but some
times, the amount of the difference may be too much.

Love provides the reason for being willing to adjust to
the other person's difference from yours.

A frequent question is; "How do I know it's real love?"
The answer may be that when you are enjoying something
special - ex: a movie, a sunset, flower, song, and you
long to have your partner to share it with. The
degree of longing will determine how much in love you are.

Growth in a relationship should come from; doing things
together, allowing things to happen, accepting them as
is, and changing what you can. It involves sharing and
caring.

Couples usually don't mind working at their relationship
as long as they have a closeness to each other. They
don't want divorce, they want understanding. Divorce is
usually a rebellion at not being able to get through to
each other. The couple are still in love, that's why it
hurts so much to part.

There is a story of a couple who had been engaged for
seven years. The young lady didn't have the courage to
commit. They had their personalities profiled and
learned to adjust to each other's personalities. They
understood each other as individuals and their relationship
flourished.

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3 Tips You Wish You Know Earlier Before You Go Into Any Type of Relationship!

If you are in a relationship right now, or are thinking of
going into one, there are 3 very important tips you should
know and questions you should ask yourself before you ever
get yourself into a relationship. This could save you from a
lot of heartache and pain when you are involved in a love
relationship.

(1) Your lover does not owe you your happiness, peace or
joy.
Happiness is a state of mind we choose to have. All of your
happiness, and all of your suffering, are created by you and
they do not come from outside of you, or from others. Before
you go into any type of relationship, ask yourself these
questions: "Do I really, really, really know how to walk
away from disappointment and fear? Will I be able to find
the person that I am now even after I go into this
relationship and begin a new way of life?" In short, you
should not be dependent on your partner on your emotional
needs. You yourself are responsible for your own feelings
and creating positive experiences for both your partner and
you whenever you are together.

(2) Love your partner for who they are.
No one in this world is perfect. One day you will find your
partner doing certain things or saying certain things that
will hurt you, disappoint you or anger you. Before you go
into any type of relationship, you have to ask yourself:
"Will I be able to love my partner for who they are. If I am
unhappy or angry with something they have said or done, will
I be able to recognize my unhappiness or anger as against
their speech, actions and behavior, and not against their
persons?"

(3) Will I be able to love myself as much as I love my
partner?
If you cannot love yourself, how are you going to give love
to another? This is a mistake most people make when they go
into a relationship. They become over-obsessive with what
they can give to their partners and what they can do for
their partners. To ensure a fulfilling relationship, you
have to learn to take care of your own needs as well. A true
partner or lover is one who will make sure that you do not
become too dependent on them. You are responsible for your
own feelings and your own emotional needs too. You are a
beautiful being. So, take care of yourself, love yourself,
treat yourself to all the good things in life too, and do
the same to your partner. Very soon you will find true love
always coming your way without any effort on your part!

As always, if you are encountering problems in your
relationship, try to dissolve all of your problems in love.
And you'll be sure you are on your way to a peaceful and
fulfilling relationship!

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Where Are The Erogenous Zones?

There are very obvious ones and many mystery ones. I am going to try and identify both and give you some hints on how to use them. The female body is exactly like a work of art and then you mix mans curiosity in there then you have lots of factors into what drives men and women crazy with desire.

A mans body is pretty simple when it comes to erogenous zones. Man does have some hidden zones but for the most part any one can turn on a man and they know the exact places a man desires to be touched. Women are very different in this aspect. They have many more erogenous zones. Once a skilled lover finds these he can make the woman reach for the stars begging for more.

It’s easy to read articles like this and think you can find everything that turns a woman on. The misconception there is that every woman is different there fore they respond differently to different variations. It’s not always easy to find these zones on a woman.

1. The Feet

If you asked most people they would say that most erogenous zones on a woman would be found in the upper body. However one of the most erogenous zones on a woman is her feet. Women love to have their feet caressed and kissed. If you do this she will love you forever. Behind the knees is also a spot that can send your lover over the edge.

2. The Head

The head believe it or not has very many erogenous zones. The lips would come in first for being a very sensitive spot. Of course we all know what kissing the neck does. Ladies always like to hear you whisper beautiful things in her ears as you are nibbling on them.

3. The Buttocks

One of the hottest spots on a lady is her buttocks. Almost all women love to be touched on her buttocks while some even enjoy a little tap. And of course this is a good mix because there isn’t a guy out there who doesn’t like to caress a nice soft, round, firm butt.

4. The Breasts

I would be amiss if I didn’t mention breasts. Probably the most favorite spot for fondling men. We do however have to be careful. Once again all women are not alike and believe it or not there are women who are not turned on by breast action. Women can also be turned off if you are too anxious to get at their breasts.

5. The Clitoris

Of course the most erogenous spot on any women’s body is the clitoris. It is probably the biggest hot spot for erotic sensations. It is here that you can let your fingers and lips play as much as you like as long as your partner has no objections. It is important for a man to get to know this spot because it is usually the base to all good sexual relationships.

One thing we need to remember is that the erogenous zones are only one part to a good sexual relationship. They are simply used to increase a woman’s pleasure and passion. One thing that is usually bigger than this is everything that leads up to the erogenous zones. If your not a gentleman and go through the courting process properly then you wont even get to experience a women’s erogenous zones.

Dale Mazurek


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Love And Its Sparks

So many people have so much in their lives but they are missing that one important part in their lives. In this article I will attempt to help you realise just how important love is in your life.
Your bank account is full of cash, you have job security, you have a great reputation, you own your own home, and your health is as great as it can be but still there is something missing in your life that’s keeping you from being happy. You haven’t found someone to love. You now realize that life without love is like your missing a part of your soul.
You have to realize that love is meant to be for life. Love isn’t days, weeks, months or even years but it should be forever. You have to learn how to keep the sparks going in a relationship in order to keep the relationship bright forever.
The short term relationships that we all encounter at one point or another are absolutely useless to our bodies and souls. You will never be happy with the short relationships. A long healthy relationship will keep your soul healthy, happy and joyful.
It is very easy to fall in love but very difficult to keep the sparks burning in that relationship. So before you commit to a long term relationship make sure your partner is as serious as you are. If your partner isn’t serious than the relationship can turn miserable in a hurry so you should get rid of that person and continue looking.
Too many people put their careers in front of their relationships and this is the worst thing you can do. You have to find a convenient balance between the two of them and then it will work. For your soul it’s absolutely important not to starve your soul from love just for your job.
All too often people split up after many successful years in a relationship. Everyone around you is genuinely surprised when they hear of the split up. In order to avoid this you have to make sure the communication inside the relationship always stays open. Talk to each other. A gentle kiss and a caressing touch will go a long way. If all else fails there is no shame in going to counselling to help make the relationship last.
Finding the right person to share the rest of your life with can be a great journey. It’s a ride that you want to take carefully. You need to find someone that shares your values, dreams, fantasies, joys and jokes. You also need someone who will stand by you during the hard times. This person has to be able to understand you and console you through every tough moment you may encounter in your life time.
Keeping those sparks going in your relationship at times can be very difficult but at the end of the day I will guarantee you that it will be worth it to be able to spend the rest of your life with someone you consider your best friend and soul mate.


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Long Distance Relationships

Probably one of the most difficult relationships in today’s society is the long distance relationship. First of all jealousy isn’t going to work in this sort of relationship. Expectations have to be established at the very beginning. This has to be done honestly and openly. It’s also very important that you live your own life when you’re apart.

When the two of you are apart its very important you don’t change your lifestyle. You have to continue going out with your friends. The biggest mistake you can make is sitting by the phone waiting for the call. Doing this will definitely drive you crazy.

Probably the biggest thing in failing a long distance relationship is jealousy. If you’re always worried about where your partner is and what they are doing then you’re setting yourself up for a very painful fall.

It’s important that we remember we are human beings and not robots. We crave passion and closeness with other human beings so is it really fair to ask either one of the partners to remain exclusive. You’re basically asking each other to be miserable while apart from one another.

To me a relationship is a relationship. I don’t care if your together every day or apart for months at a time. There should be no give when it comes to exclusivity. If you two care about each other enough you will make it work until you can be closer together for good. The key to any relationship is being open and honest. If you follow these two keys and you both care about one another then this kind of relationship really can work.

Dale Mazurek

Dale has been married for twenty years and considers himself an expert in topics of this sort. You can check out his ever growing blog at http://relationshiptidbits.blogspot.com/ two of his other popular blogs can be found at http://affiliatemarketingfornewbies.blogspot.com and http://fishingtutor.blogspot.com/

How To Get Clues That Your Partner Is Cheating (Part 1)

Cheating can be one of the most devastating things that can happen to a man or woman in a committed relationship. In the next few articles I intend to bring you up to speed on some clues that you can watch for if you have any thoughts that your partner may be cheating.

Let’s go back to the beginning of a relationship. What really happens before two people decide to get married? They have been dating and checking each other out. We all know that women do the choosing. Men respond to women’s signals and a relationship moves forward at a pace governed by the women’s appetite. So how does a couple who is totally in love and committed to each other end up in the predicament dictated by cheating.

1. You and your spouse have had all the children you want. The both of you sit down and decide a vasectomy is the best way to go. You have the simple operation and everything is great. About a year later you are looking for something in her night table and you find birth control pills that are being used.
2. Your spouse and you have always got along with each other’s friends. One day you notice that these friends are now acting weird toward your spouse. To me this gives me the indication that they know something about your partner that he or she may be hiding from you.
3. Forever you and your spouse have always talked about things that have bothered them. There have never been secrets in your relationship. Next thing you notice is that your spouse isn’t talking to you and definitely isn’t confiding in you.
4. You’re going through your internet bill one day and you notice there is a new email account added to the bill. You had no clue there was a new email address. When you ask your partner about it they just tell you that it’s not important but they don’t offer to show you.
5. You give your spouse a kiss before he goes to work and you notice he has your favourite cologne on. You are very happy that he’s wearing it. When he gets home you give him a kiss and you notice that he smells like different cologne.
6. Your partner has never had any interest in going to the gym but all of a sudden he or she has a sudden interest in taking on many, many vigorous work outs at a gym across from town.
7. Your both sitting on the couch one evening watching a movie and all of the sudden you hear a phone ringing. She looks a bit confused when she reaches into her purse to shut the phone off. When you ask her why she didn’t tell you about the phone she claims that she just forgot about it.
This is part one of a short series on clues that your partner is cheating. By all means you can’t take these clues as gospel. Before doing anything rational I would suggest waiting for the rest of the articles to come out and even then I would be careful before accusing someone of something you don’t have proof of.

Dale Mazurek

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5 Secrets from a Life Coach to Achieve Lasting Happiness by Jeannette Samanen PhD

In my work as a life coach, I find that there are five basic ingredients that lead to sustained happiness. Cultivate these deceptively simple behaviors and you will live a happier life.

1. Give and Receive Love

Your relationships are what nourish you the most, whether with family, friends or pets. Be kind to those around you. Be willing to give and receive support, encouragement and hugs. Make time for those you care about.

Research has shown that kindness to others provides more lasting satisfaction than having fun.

2. Do Meaningful Work

Meaningful work may be a job you care about, whether it's work you get paid for, or taking care of your family. Meaningful work might be volunteering at a local hospice or teaching Sunday school.

Meaningful work can also be a hobby or interest you pursue, such as singing in a choir, collecting rare coins or quilting.

Meaningful work gives purpose and joy to your life.

3. Nourish Your Body Properly

You need a healthy body to enjoy life. When you take the time to eat nutritious foods, you provide your body with what it needs to function properly.

You feel better when you eat with awareness. Stop eating when you are full. Listen to your body and choose the foods your body loves. These may be different than the foods you crave. Really notice how the foods you eat affect you and make your food choices accordingly.

Enjoy alcohol in moderation. Life is enhanced by a glass of wine with dinner or a couple of drinks with friends after work. If alcohol is creating problems in your life, it's time to modify your drinking behavior.

4. Exercise and Rest

Watch a young child or a pet and you will notice vigorous activity immediately followed by rest. They run around like crazy and then conk out. We are hard-wired to do this. Make sure you get enough of both.

Exercise provides your body with the activity it needs to remain healthy. It also produces endorphins, hormones that create a natural high.

Ample rest is as important as exercise. People who get adequate sleep do better on every measure of physical and psychological health.

Take brief relaxation breaks during the day. You will return to work refreshed and better able to handle whatever challenges you face.

5. Cultivate a Practice of Reflection

Provide yourself with regular opportunity to reflect on your life. Take a walk during your lunch hour or turn off the radio in your car on the way home. Keep a daily journal or spend time in church focusing on the past week and the one ahead. Set up a regular appointment with a life coach.

This is time to take stock of what is working in your life and what you would like to see different and better. You will gain awareness that enables you to be more in control of your life.

Taking time for quiet reflection will also help you to calm and center yourself. This is a great way to manage the stress in your life.

In Summary

You can think of these elements as a beautiful flower with five petals. When you practice all of them, you will definitely make your good life better

Drawing on skills and expertise developed over 30 years experience, Jeannette Samanen PhD provides effective life coaching, empowering you to achieve your goals. Learn more secrets to help you lead a happy life. Subscribe to her "Make Your Good Life Better" newsletter at => http://www.achieveyourgoals.com .


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Anti-Aging For Baby Boomers

In the 1940s through to the 60s we as a country experienced very high birth rates to what is now known as the “baby boom.” These people were called “Baby Boomers”. They were mod clothes, sampled hallucinogenic drugs and they rocked with the Beatles. These were great times. Not a care in the world. Some of these baby boomers are in their 40s and some are close to retirement now.

Times have definitely changed now as have the baby boomers. There not as young as they used to be and not so full of exuberance and virility. This is especially true for the men. Their hair lines are receding, memory is getting cob webs and sexual performance is declining. Others also experience insomnia, aches, sweating, increased fat, loss of strength. Irritability, crankiness or even depression can also settle in. Most men of this age will experience either one or all of these to some degree.

A mans testosterone level starts to decrease at around age 30. It usually does so at the rate of 10 percent per decade. Of course testosterone helps maintain sex drive, sperm production, pubic and body hair. The consequences of aging slowly emerge as a man ages.

There are ways to help these baby boomers. You have to create a plan for a healthy life style. This could include optimal diets, supplements, regular exercise, stress management and natural hormone enhancement.

Let’s get basic here. We are missing many things in today’s diet but we also have ingredients in our diet that we shouldn’t have. Mostly high in sugar, fat and salt. The idea compromise should be 25% protein, 25% fat, and 50 % carbohydrates. Your protein should come from mainly plants, beans and animal sources like meat. Nut and olive oil is preferred over animal fats. Fruits and vegetables are main sources of carbohydrates so plenty of them should be eaten. Cortisol is a major age inducing hormone and is widely induced by junk foods, soda pop or any thing refined with sugar.

It’s however going to take a lot more than just diet to meet necessary nutrients. So it is favorable to take supplements like vitamins, minerals, antioxidants and other nutritional factors to be able to meet your daily requirements.

Physical activity is huge in helping to alleviate symptoms of aging. A good regular exercise program helps in the decreasing of bone and muscle mass. Regular exercise also helps to increase your metabolism. This allows you to burn more fat. Also exercise strengthens your heart and keeps your body flexible.

Stress can really accelerate the aging process. That alone is a great reason to practice stress management. Relaxation is so important. Try yoga, sports, meditation, reading, massages and so on. These activities will help you to focus and to loosen up.

Natural hormone enhancement is another way to put off some symptoms of aging. It’s ever so important to consult with your physician before using any supplemental HGHs such as injections, sprays, pills or tablets

Aging can be a huge factor on the quality of our lives. However with a healthy lifestyle which includes proper diet supplements, regular exercise, stress management and natural hormone enhancement. By doing all of this you can greatly reduce or eliminate some or all of symptoms associated with aging.

Dale Mazurek

Through his amateur studies Dale considers himself some what adept at topics of this sort. You can check out two more of his very popular blogs at http://stcajo-readshortstories.blogspot.com/ or http://fishingtutor.blogspot.com/ or check out one of his exploding relationship products at http://track.lativio.com/hit.php?w=108403&p=2&s=37

A Good Relationship Starts With You

In this article I intend to help you with your relationships by first making sure you like yourself and to make sure you have been taking care of yourself.
Okay you’re a single male in your mid twenties and you have a plan. You’re always thinking about women and finding that special someone. You want to be friends for at least a year, then you want to date for a year and then by age thirty you want to be married.
This goal may seem like it can’t be done but you have to remember that it can be altered. You definitely know what you want and what you don’t want in a spouse. But are you being too fussy because it’s taking so long to find the woman that suits your mission.
Occasionally you sit back and you know she’s out there. You wonder what she’s doing at that very moment and you wonder if she is thinking about you. Your friends keep reminding you how they found their special some bodies. However you keep reminding yourself that God will bring the two of you together once he is ready.
So you really never know if you’re ready, you think you are but then you have your doubts. Maybe your dream girl isn’t ready. Maybe she’s doing something to work on her relationship skills. How will you ever know if you are ready for a relationship? Take a look at the points below and they might help you decide if you are ready for the relationship of your dreams.
Do you think you’re financially ready for a relationship? Okay you graduated and you have been through a few career changes and you have even been laid off. Is your bank account where it should be? And how about those credit cards, do you have control over them? So do you have a plan in place about paying off bills or maybe buying a house? You definitely don’t want to start a relationship if you got bad spending habits.
How about your looks? Are you happy with your physical appearance? You know that you don’t eat properly so you want to find some good bachelor recipes. The next thing you are sure of is that you need to join a gym to help lose a few of those unwanted pounds. If you look good for yourself that will give you the confidence that you need to find that special someone that you are looking for. Besides that if you’re looking for a smoking hot woman then why should she settle for anything less.
Do you think of yourself as a smart person? Just because you finished school doesn’t absolutely make you as smart as you can be. There is always the option to go back to school. After all don’t you won’t to seem intelligent around your wife to be?
Are you happy as an individual? You have to make sure you love yourself before you can even think of loving someone else. Happiness in a relationship can definitely fill one void, however if you can first be happy living alone than you can move forward to find someone to live with you. Okay so as long as you know that your relationship first starts with you and you learn to love yourself then you are probably ready to start letting someone else into your life.
Dale Mazurek

Dale has been married for 19 years and writes these articles based on his studies. You can check out his very popular relationship product at http://track.lativio.com/hit.php?w=108403&p=2&s=37 or check out one of his great blogs at http://relationshiptidbits.blogspot.com/ or http://stcajo-readshortstories.blogspot.com/

I Don’t Do This Often

Hello to everyone. First I would just like to say thanks to everyone for helping make my blog so successful. When I first started this about 3 months ago I never dreamed I would be having the success that I am. I write a total of 5 blogs and this one by far is my favourite. I’m not saying the other ones aren’t important to me but being married for twenty years and having so many friends and family that have relationship issues I will be able to write in this blog for years. I would like to promote a few things today. I don’t do this often but I feel I owe it to all of you to share some of these great products with all the really great people that read my blog. You may have to cut and paste the Urls into your browser but go ahead and have a look. I’m sure there’s something in here for everyone.
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Thanks Dale

First Kiss

Love and sex are a couple of things that keep us going in our relationships but getting to that point can be very stressful with all the firsts that we have to get through. There is the first date, first phone call, first evening out, first kiss, first evening together. All these firsts are going to be the makeup of the relationship and the deciding factors on whether or not the relationship will go anywhere. In this article we are going to focus on the first kiss.
1. It is rare to get anything right on the first try and because of this there are many awkward first date moments. There are bound to be many first mistakes in and out of bed. If you get through these then they can provide a lot of humorous memories later on in your relationship. However it is still important to try and keep the mistakes to a minimum.
2. Of course the first time is going to be a nervous one for you so it’s important to have the right setting set up. Once you think the time has arrived and both of you are comfortable for you then it may be time to plan for the first kiss. You want this to happen in a place that’s familiar to both of you and an intimate setting would probably be a good idea.
3. You don’t have to wait for butterflies in your stomach or fireworks to go off. If you feel like the both of you are ready for that first kiss then you will know it and then you should just go for it. Just make sure you do cherish it because it could become a very special part of your relationship.
4. If you’re not entirely certain what she wants then you should just move in with a nice light, smooth kiss. If she doesn’t move back and it seems like she is enjoying the kiss then for the second kiss you could move in with a little more aggression and go for the French kiss. But make sure you are reading her right. A lot of times just a nice smooth kiss for the first date will get you a lot of points on the second date.
5. If you don’t care about the date ending early and you ending up alone then go ahead and go after the French kiss. I would suggest you not doing that simply because it could mess things up for a long time in the relationship if there even is a relationship after this. To her the first kiss could be the highlight of the relationship for a very long time.
So to conclude this it’s important not to mess things up on the first kiss. A lot of huff is made over the first kiss so it’s important to make sure things turn out right. So if you just find a nice quiet out of the way spot where your girl can slide into your arms and then you can kiss the night away then maybe just maybe you can consider your first kiss a success.

Dale Mazurek

Dale has been married for over twenty years and because of this considers himself somewhat of a relationship expert. You can check out his relationship blog at http://relationshiptidbits.blogspot.com/
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How To Make Foreplay Work Better (Part 2)

Foreplay is probably the most important part of the entire love making experience. Foreplay is the actions that come before intercourse. Men or women, it doesn’t matter, foreplay is used for arousal, making the experience better and to add variety into your sex life. This article will be broken into two parts. One will be dedicated to the men and the second to the women.

6. Talk To Her

Women need you to have open and caring conversations with them. They need to hear the words out of your mouth. Don’t make the mistake of over embelishing your conversation. You just want to tell them that you love them or missed them and this will be the right direction into bringing her over the edge.

7. Hear What She Is Saying

Women don’t just want you to hear them but rather they need you to listen to them. They also need to hear you. They want to listen to you. They don’t want short answers to their problems but rather some one who will sit down with them and have an intelligent conversation. This might not seem very sexual but to women this makes for very intimate moments.

8. She Loves To Be Touched

Women love it when you touch them in non sexual ways. To them it shows closeness and security. You want to hold their hands or give them a hug. If they know everything doesn’t have to lead to bedroom activity then when it does that will be so much better. When you’re watching television and you play with her hair it makes her feel like you will be there forever.

9. She Loves To Kiss

Women love kissing. To them there is no more of a turn on then nice romantic kissing. You don’t want to get to crazy at first with the tongue action and what not. She will dictate what she wants and how hard she wants to be kissed. Slowly you can add more passion. The best thing to do when it comes to this is to follow her lead and she will show you how she wants to be kissed.

10. The Next Step

Of course we want the kissing to lead to the next stage but be careful not to get to forceful. There is going to be time between the kissing and the next stage but that’s okay. The more that you show her the love and caress the more turned on she will be. Women get very excited as well but they just show it in different ways.

This is a simple list of tips that can possibly help you and your spouse in the bedroom. This by no means is meant to be tacky or dirty. Every day millions and millions of couples make love without foreplay. Don’t be scared to add foreplay to your bedroom experience and see what it does for the entire love making experience.

Thanks Dale


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Love making and foreplay if done right is probably the most satisfying experience in the world. In this article all I strive to do is supply the readers with a few tips into helping this experience.

5 Needs Of A Relationship

Does anybody know what they want out of a relationship? Do you know what you’re looking for in a partner and what needs need to be fulfilled? Most of us get scared and mixed up when we start thinking about what we are looking for when trying to pick our significant other. But once you think about it for a while you should come up with some good ideas. I will go over what I think to be the 5 most important needs.

1. Physical Partner

You need a partner to help you with your physical needs. Man or woman it doesn’t matter. We all have physical needs so when thinking about that person you have to figure out if they can take care of your physical needs and you take care of theirs.

2. Partners Have To Be Friends

Through out you life your going to have lots of highs and lots of lows. You want to have someone that you know you can count on during these times. Someone that will listen when times are tough and someone to help celebrate when things go well.

3. Is Everything There

Your partner has to make you feel 100% fulfilled. Fulfillment is hard to explain but when the time comes you will feel that the partner you are with will be the one that can offer it to you.

4. I Want You As Mine

While a partner isn’t an object that you own you kind of want it to feel that way. If you need to cry or vent you have to know that your partner is there for you. They will support you in life know matter what. And you have to be able to support them. Both of you want to have similar romantic interests like taking long walks, going for ice cream or sitting by the fire.

5. Love Is Most Important

If there isn’t love then forget about anything else. People need love. I don’t care if its men or women. They both need to be pampered. They need to be treated gently. You should be able to voice your love for your partner. Love isn’t just a give but more importantly it is a need.

Okay now you know what you want out of your relationship and I am willing to bet that your partner wants similar things. The key now is to talk to your partner. The two of you need to talk about each others needs and see how things go from there. Just make sure you are honest with each other and things should work out.

In order for your relationship to work you have to know what you need out of it. I have listed what I think to be the 5 most important needs in a relationship.

Dale has been married for twenty very successful years and feels he knows what’s important in a relation ship. You can check out his interactive relationship blog at http://relationshiptidbits.blogspot.com/ You can check out two other very popular blogs oh his. http://stcajo-readshortstories.blogspot.com/ and http://fishingtutor.blogspot.com/

How To Make 20 Years Of Marriage

In the day of internet at any given time you can find hundreds and hundreds of ads to help your marriage succeed. There are books, tapes, DVDs, counsellors and lessons of every different kind. I decided to write a short article on what I think has helped my marriage to succeed for the last twenty years. Don’t get me wrong. I believe there is value in the information we find but I thought I would share what made my relationship so successful. These are in no means necessarily in any order.

1. Communication
Communication is one of the most important parts in maintaining a successful relationship. It is important to always keep the lines open. You or your partner might not always like what they are seeing but it’s important to convey that to one another. Make sure the communication goes both ways though. It can’t always be problems that you’re communicating about. You have to make sure you communicate about the good things as well.

2. Honesty
Lying is a great way to head a marriage into a disaster. No matter how big or small a lie is a lie. The marriage has to be open enough that you can convey anything to your partner. If you feel a need to lie then there is a weakness in your marriage. Once you start lying and get away with it then the lies will continue eventually leading to disaster and very possibly a break up.

3. Trust
If you don’t trust your partner then you have to figure out why and see if the issue can be resolved. If it can’t be then the time has come for both of you to walk away. It is so important to have trust. You or your partner has to have time away from each other. Those are the times when trust is the most evident. If you can’t let your partner go out for a night with his or her buddies without calling them on the cell phone all night or continuously wondering what they are doing then you better get this resolved. It might work for a while but eventually things will come to an ugly screeching halt.

4. I Love You
This is a phrase I must have used millions of times in my twenty years of marriage. It is so important to tell your partner that you love them. After twenty years they know but still need to hear it. I never hang up the phone without saying it. I never go to bed without saying it. You can’t be embarrassed to say those three words. Hell I have even yelt them out in the mall before more than once.

5. Show Affection
In order for a marriage to last that long you have to keep the affection strong. You have to maintain a healthy sex life. If things go wrong there it is important to figure out why and deal with it. You have to be able to give your spouse hugs and kisses. And you have to be able to show your affection in public. I don’t mean that you should act like a bunch of teenagers but on a walk you should still hold hands and be able to give each other a kiss.

Twenty years of marriage at times feels like a roller coaster. There will be good and bad times. How you handle these times is whist will direct your marriage. What’s important is that you never give up. It’s too easy now a day to just walk away but I take a lot more pride in never giving up and always fighting for what I believe in.

Dale has been happily married for twenty years. He has started a new interactive relationship blog that can be checked out at http://relationshiptidbits.blogspot.com/ two other blogs that may be of some interest are http://fishingtutor.blogspot.com/ and his second passion after his wife is writing. http://stcajo-readshortstories.blogspot.com

How To Make Your Relationship Succeed (Part 3)

Hello everyone. By no means do I profess to be an expert in relationships but the one thing I do have is a very successful marriage of twenty years. Through those years my wife and I have had to work through several trials and tribulations. We could have very easily given up but the both of us took our vowels very seriously. That hard work has brought us to a point in our relationship where we know everything will be just fine. I will share with you some of the small things that have helped us to make our marriage last. This is part three of a small three part series.

17. Remember sometimes you have to take time for yourself. You would be surprised what 45 minutes would do for your temperament. The key to this is understanding your partner when they need this time.

18. Everyone is going to argue. That’s a given. However you have to learn to argue properly. Your trying to resolve issues not hurt the other person. So if you don’t want to hear it then don’t say it.

19. You want to reinforce your love so one good way to do this is give lots of hugs, smiles and kisses. At least four to one. For every negative aspect give four positive ones.

20. You guys have to learn to work together. Sometimes this means you don’t get everything you want but that’s okay. You have to learn to negotiate.

21. Usually what you married is what you get. Time to face facts. You’re not going to make your partner change. So as long as their characteristics are not harmful to the marriage then learn to live with them.

22. Sometimes people will make mistakes. After all we are only human. You have to be able to forgive your partner. If it’s so bad that you can’t forgive them then maybe it’s best for both of you if you guys go your separate ways.

23. Marriage should be forever but that doesn’t mean things will stay the same forever. You guys have to keep an open relationship so that there are no surprises when one of you has a different opinion on something you did five years ago.

24. Sometimes you have no choice. There just is no making things better. Maybe there are drugs or violence involved. There comes a time when you might just have to say that enough is enough.

25. Lastly, we don’t have counsellors for nothing. They have saved many a marriage. Don’t look at going to a counsellor as a failure but rather as an admission that you want the marriage to work but you need some help.

These are very simple tasks to put into place and follow. I cannot guarantee these will make your relationship perfect but if the relationship was meant to be then these will just show you that much sooner.

Dale Mazurek

This is part three in a 3 part miniseries on how to make your relationship succeed. All the answers are not here but if you follow these tips it can make your relationship much healthier.

Dale is presently working on getting his first novel published. He has been married for twenty years and is a self taught expert fisherman for the last 35 years. You can find some of his incredible stories at his blogs. http://relationshiptidbits.blogspot.com/ http://fishingtutor.blogspot.com/ http://stcajo-readshortstories.blogspot.com/

How To Make Your Relationship Succeed (Part 2)

Hello everyone. By no means do I profess to be an expert in relationships but the one thing I do have is a very successful marriage of twenty years. Through those years my wife and I have had to work through several trials and tribulations. We could have very easily given up but the both of us took our vowels very seriously. That hard work has brought us to a point in our relationship where we know everything will be just fine. I will share with you some of the small things that have helped us to make our marriage last. This is part two of a small three part series.

9. It is so important not to keep things bottled up inside you. This will just build resentment and lead to the biggest fight imaginable. You need to express your problem and then ask for help with the answer.
10. If you think punishing your partner for something stupid they may have done your just asking for trouble. It will make them fight back even harder. Your best off to ignore the things you don’t like and praise them for the things that make you happy.
11. Here is the biggest reason people fight. MONEY Yes that’s right. Finances are the number one reason for the biggest fights around. Both of you have to learn to be open about money. When you work on the budget it has to be both of you involved equally.
12. House work isn’t just for women. The work around the house needs to be divided up evenly. This means children and yes hubby has to have an even share as well.
13. Something else that needs to be spit up and that is child care. Hubby has to be involved in changing diapers and feedings as well so that mom can take a break.
14. Don’t let your sex life disappear. There are going to be ups and downs in your sex life but as soon as either one of you see it going down make sure you start working to bring it back up. Don’t let sex turn into an argument.
15. I am not advocating having an affair but if one does happen you should still try and work things out. Figure out why it happened and see if it can be corrected. A mistake doesn’t have to be the end of a lifelong commitment.
16. Remember if you are bored with your spouse then you are probably angry about something so you should be asking yourself what you are angry about.

These are very simple tasks to put into place and follow. I cannot guarantee these will make your relationship perfect but if the relationship was meant to be then these will just show you that much sooner.

Dale Mazurek

This is part two in a 3 part miniseries on how to make your relationship succeed. All the answers are not here but if you follow these tips it can make your relationship much healthier.

Dale is presently working on getting his first novel published. He has been married for twenty years and is a self taught expert fisherman for the last 35 years. You can find some of his incredible stories at his blogs. http://relationshiptidbits.blogspot.com/ http://fishingtutor.blogspot.com/ http://stcajo-readshortstories.blogspot.com/

How To Make Your Relationship Succeed (Part 1)

Hello everyone. By no means do I profess to be an expert in relationships but the one thing I do have is a very successful marriage of twenty years. Through those years my wife and I have had to work through several trials and tribulations. We could have very easily given up but the both of us took our vowels very seriously. That hard work has brought us to a point in our relationship where we know everything will be just fine. I will share with you some of the small things that have helped us to make our marriage last. This is part one of a small three part series.

1. It is very important that you make time for one another. I can’t tell you how much because I don’t know your schedule but no matter what you do the both of you have to commit this time to being quality time. There should be no distractions of any kind.
2. You have to both realize that you can’t be right all the time. Compromise will be a huge word in your marriage and you have to learn how it works early on in your relationship. Sometimes you have to give to get.
3. Keeping a happy medium with your feelings is crucial. It is important that your spouse knows that you need them but on the other hand if you are always hanging all over them then things are going to go bad quickly.
4. If you want your partner to listen to you when you need someone to talk to then you have to make sure you make the effort to listen to them in their time of need. One thing to remember is that it takes two to tangle.
5. If you’re waiting for compliments it’s not always going to happen. Its okay to encourage kind words by asking questions like doesn’t the car look good?
6. When it comes to the bedroom it’s a must that both of you show each other what you like right from the beginning. 9 times out of ten your partner isn’t going to figure it out without your help.
7. I will tell you what works great to reassure your partner that everything is going to be all right. That is to every once in a while give them the smile. You know which one I mean. The one that shows love and sincerity.
8. You have to learn to live with each other. What might have been cute early in your relationship might be annoying now but just remember that you to are going to do annoying things as well.

These are very simple tasks to put into place and follow. I cannot guarantee these will make your relationship perfect but if the relationship was meant to be then these will just show you that much sooner.

Dale Mazurek

This is part one in a 3 part miniseries on how to make your relationship succeed. All the answers are not here but if you follow these tips it can make your relationship much healthier.

Dale is presently working on getting his first novel published. He has been married for twenty years and is a self taught expert fisherman for the last 35 years. You can find some of his incredible stories at his blogs. http://relationshiptidbits.blogspot.com/ http://fishingtutor.blogspot.com/ http://stcajo-readshortstories.blogspot.com/